Most of us were never taught to connect our adult habits to our childhood experiences. But psychology has a lot to say about the quiet, everyday behaviors that trace back to emotional neglect — the kind that leaves no visible marks but shapes everything. In this video, we break down six completely ordinary habits that are actually signs of childhood neglect. No drama, no blame — just honest psychology that might finally make some things click. If any of these hit home, drop a comment. You're probably not alone. signs of childhood neglect psychology explains | childhood emotional neglect | mental health | psychology facts | emotional healing | inner child | attachment theory | self awareness | therapy talk | mental health awareness
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My whole personality is a response to trauma.
1:51 sign 1: over-apologizing 2:59 reading the room extremely well 4:04 doing things alone all the time 5:07 not knowing what you want 6:08 feeling guilty when things are going well 7:20 being your harshest critique in private
It’s wild how the smallest, most “normal” habits can actually be quiet evidence of what you didn’t get growing up.
All of this hits way too close to home.
When I was little, My mother would pick me up two hours late after school. When i expressed that i was upset/ scared/ sad/ cold my mum would tell me i was so selfish. She was a teacher at high school, and she would stay late all the time to do extra activities with students, just for their enjoyment. It was so upsetting as a little kid of 7 or 8😢😥
Not everything leaves a visible wound… some things just quietly shape how we live.
My late father was a monster. He could change into Cliff Huxtable like a chameleon, the second anyone who could help me came close. He beat up my mother constantly, hit us kids, threatened to end us and missed no opportunity to tell us we were the biggest mistakes of his life. But around teachers, police, etc, he was so nice. All smiles, handshakes and surprised that someone said he was a bad man. Everyone fell for it. Which is why I laugh now when they tell children to tell someone like a teacher or a cop. But now, my siblings have Stockholm Syndrome. They remember a father who never existed. I remember the monster who did.
I wasn't allowed feelings and I remember many examples
Hypervigilance, like a built in smoke alarm, prefering to be alone so you don't get used and abandoned again, and knowing that asking for help is useless because no one is coming. Everyone else has a right to be sick, upset, hurt, or frightened, but you don't and never did.
In my case; it’s all TRUE!!!😑
Yesterday, I took a day off and rested, being a couch potato. -------- I felt guilty almost day. I would never begrudge another person doing that. ---------- I deserve it.
My mother did not want children so I was an only child. Life with her was not easy. I am 80and still feel the pain and guilt.
My mother gave me the basics; Food, shelter, medical treatment when needed, and transportation. I never really felt loved. I felt owned, under her authority and commands.
I grew up with 8 siblings. I guess you call it neglect, but I call it a chance to learn self-reliance. I don't need anyone because I learned as a kid if you wanted something, you had to do it yourself. This is why I got a job at 13 and worked ever since. My wife keeps asking me to do things, but I never asked her to do anything because I don't need help. It's not that I don't want help, or get offended when I get help, I just never ask for it, and do it myself.
All of them.
My nervous system seems to be shot.
I'm one of those I hate asking for help. If I ask someone for help, it means I really like that person and trust that person and believe 100% they're going to say yes.
first time i came face to face with my alexithymia was after my husband passed and I went to a therapist to try to sort through my grief/trauma. looking back, I should have been clued in when he asked "what do you want to achieve with therapy?" and I sat there for about 2 minutes in silence waiting for him to answer it for me or give me some prompts. But it was when he later asked "What things do you take time to do for your enjoyment, not others?" and that silence was hard. Nothing. Literally nothing. Everything my entire life was always done for other people. For their happiness - never mine. I always said that I got my happiness from being able to make someone else happy. It's true, I do... but if I sit here and ask myself "what thing can I do today to make myself happy?" blank. Every time. Only things I can think of are something I can do for someone else to make them happy.
Still say sorry all the time ,I’m 58 .this is very close to home. .
It’s not that they wouldn’t show up. It’s that they did show up but were so annoyed and irritated that I put them out and inconvenienced them